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讓你一輩子都忘不瞭的戀love經驗是什麼?這些歪果仁的回答亮瞭

| 2017-05-20

有瞭心儀的對象卻遲遲不敢開口?

計劃瞭浪漫的約會卻害怕怯場變成尬聊?

520近在眼前瞭,大腦突然仿佛當機瞭一樣空白的徹底……

love情面前的手忙腳亂,歪果仁也照樣有~而大招呢,當然也不在話下~(早說嘛,以為本君光吐苦水不支招兒的——忒不瞭解人家瞭~)

國外知名社交新聞網站Reddit:你收到的最棒的約會建議是啥?

此問題一出,咋說捏,炸出瞭無數love情高手,一個個兒的說的如此頭頭是道,簡直讓本君懷疑自己過去這麼多年4不4白活瞭……(說多瞭都是淚,小夥伴們趁著年輕多學著點兒吧~)

“第一次約會?你們肯定會客滿到胡言亂語……笑笑就好,別讓它們破壞瞭難得的約會哦~”

“馬男波傑克裡說過:戴著玫瑰色玻璃看人,即便是代表危險信號的紅旗,也會被看成一面普通旗子…

From Bojack Horseman: “When you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags.”

(雖然說情人眼裡出西施,但還是要保持清醒啊喂!)

“見面時手機不離手?回去後簡訊遲遲不回?死心吧,她多半兒對你沒有興趣……”

If she’s always on her phone when you see her but takes hours to reply to your texts, she’s not interested, bro

“知道自己想找個啥樣的,當個參考但別卡的太死。

(不少網友們高呼:最終找到的“良人”都嚴重偏離設定軌道……)

“對樓上做個補充——千萬表讓你的女票知道她並非完完全全都是你的菜。”

(已經說過瞭的童鞋請自備活血化瘀療傷物品,世紀君隻能幫你到這兒瞭……)

 

“劃重點!!!別總想著控製對方,清楚自己的底線,啥能接受啥不能接受就行~”

-You can’t control your partner.

  Your partner will do things you don’t want them to, you just have to decide what’s a deal breaker.

-This one’s really important, but requires a certain level of maturity and security.

馬上學

love情裡底線真的很重要。英文中,a red line的字面意思是“紅色警戒線”,引申為“不可觸碰的底線”。Cross the red line意為“觸碰底線”。此外,“底線還可以用bottom line,baseline來表示。 

“感情沒人喜歡單方面的付出,但也沒必要啥啥都分得那麼清楚明白。比較好的狀態是,兩個人都想成為那個為對方付出多的人~”

While you absolutely don’t want a one-sided relationship as a whole, you don’t have to be perfectly fair for everything. Things like who drives more or who pays more or who plans what to do or who initiates intimacy can be skewed to one side.

A good relationship should be split 60/40, with both people trying to be the 60.

(哎呀呀,看著都透著小甜蜜~)

馬上學

這位歪果仁提到的one-sided既可以表示片面的,也可以表示單方面的。若想表示單方面的感情、單相思,英文可以用unrequited passion 或lovelorn (害相思病的)來表示。

“萬事皆有遺憾,別過於追求完美。”

You can have anything you want…. you can’t have everything you want – My Father

(突然想到瞭老媽經常嘮叨的那句:也不能啥啥都隨瞭你的心意是不,要學會接受生活中的不完美……)

“牢記:你不欠任何人一個約會~對方人再好,沒感覺照樣不行!

同樣的,分手不是協商,不是一定要列舉原因,別相信什麼沉沒成本謬論。

此外,還要小心那些總說別人對不起TA的人,因為很快你可能也會被加進TA的黑名單。”

You don’t owe anyone a date/relationship. Yes, s/he may be a nice person, but if you’re not attracted to them, you’re not attracted to them. Nice isn’t enough.

A breakup is not a negotiation, and you can break up with someone for any reason at any time. Don’t fall for the sunk cost fallacy.

Exercise a lot of caution around someone who has an extensive list of people who have wronged them. It won’t be long until you’re added to it.

“如果你身邊的親友都不看好這段感情,或許,你真的該考慮考慮……”

If your family and friends are telling you it’s an unhealthy/bad relationship, you should listen.

“love情仿佛一場數字遊戲,取勝的關鍵在於學會付出與拒絕。

打個比方,有時候,約會雙方一個是冰淇淋,一個是意大利面。它們都很好吃,但卻未必適合一起吃。

也許冰淇淋需要的是糖漿,意大利面需要的則是肉丸。

換句話說,如果覺得不合適,那就別再糾纏。

不是分手就一定要有原因。很多人很優秀,隻是不一定適合彼此。

拒絕的時候,直接,禮貌,這就夠瞭。

也許對方會問為什麼。但是很多時候,就是一個是冰淇淋一個是意大利面,實在湊不到一塊。

所以,當別人拒絕你時,可能也是這樣,不是你不夠優秀,隻是不合適。”

It’s a numbers game, and the best way to succeed is to learn to give and take rejection well.

A lot of dating is just ice cream and spaghetti situations, they are both delicious, but not necessarily together. Maybe ice cream needs hot fudge and spaghetti needs meatballs.

In other words, don’t stick around if you get the feeling things aren’t right for you, you don’t need a big reason to leave — lots of people are great, just not as a partner for you. Be direct and polite letting someone go, but that is really all you are responsible for. They may beg you for a “reason,” but most of the time, like I said, there really isn’t one. Ice cream and spaghetti.

By the same logic, learn to see people deciding not to keep seeing you as not necessarily personal.

“love情是兩個人的事情,是兩人攜手並肩解決問題的美好旅程。”

“別繞圈子,直截瞭當的說出你的love~即使被拒絕,你的勇氣也依舊強過那些不敢表白的人~”

“Don’t beat around the bush and try to win a girl over with subtle hints, just go tell her you like her. Even if she says “no”, she will still respect you above all the other men who don’t have the balls to approach her.” – Cousin

馬上學

這位歪果仁提到的表達beat around the bush很形象~Beat指“拍打”,bush為“灌木叢”。打獵時,豬腳們為瞭讓灌木叢中的動物跑出來,就用棍子在灌木叢旁邊敲擊,動物受到驚嚇後就跑瞭出來,這樣就方便獵人狩獵瞭。後來這個習語被引申為“拐彎抹角、閃爍其詞、說話繞圈子”等意思。

“切記:做真正的自己。偽裝得來的love情經不住時間的考驗。”

Be yourself. If it doesn’t work for them, it won’t work for you in the long run, either.

“學會獨處前不必急著去戀love。千萬別僅僅為瞭身邊有個伴去戀love。

因為love而選擇在一起,而不是為瞭填補一個空白。對剛剛分手的人尤其如此……”

 

Don’t worry about dating until you’re content alone. If you’re looking to date just to be with someone, you probably shouldn’t be looking to date. You should want to be with that person, not just be with a person. Goes doubly if you’re recently out of a relationship.

歪果“戀love導師”說瞭這麼多,你想好明天要怎麼表白瞭嘛?你又有啥戀love經驗要分享呢?評論區期待你萌的支招哦~

當然,在此之前,你需要一個藍盆友/呂盆友……

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(作者:Sylvie)


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